Saturday, February 27, 2010

My husband has been clearing his phone?

what would you think if you found your husbands phone cleared of all dialed numbers called numbers and everything in in box? ive never been a nosy person my husband knows this as i would never even answer his phone or open his letters just this once as friends wanted to look at his picture on the phone..jokingly i asked to look through and its clean of everything!! we have been together 15yrs and yes sex is so infrequent now and we have had counseling recently, am i going mad or would you be suspicious? all answers really appreciatedMy husband has been clearing his phone?
others have mentioned clearing the phone for space reasons, like text message inbox. I understand that completely. However, I can find no reason at all to clear incoming call history or dialed call history. Every phone i've ever had, the call histories were constanly evolving in that as new calls were added, the oldest ones would drop off the list and clearing these lists would serve no useful purpose for gaining any memory space. mind you i do not have experience with every single model of phone that has ever been made, but the dozen or so that i have had have all been this way, all the way back to the bag phone. While you can never be sure that any ONE thing is a sign of infidelity, you should probably think about it for awhile and see if there are other signs you might be missing. My ex wife left me a huge list of clues that i was oblivious to as each individual thing had a simple explaination. But when all these ';signs'; were put together, it added up to a bad situation.


If you do have reasonable suspision i reccomend staying very quiet about it until you can say for sure with absolute certainty. Folks that are having affairs get careless after awhile and leave you the clues you need to catch them. If you tip your hand too early though, it will make him harder to catch as he knows you will be watching. Also, if there is no affair going on you dont want to accuse him of having one, it will not help your relationship situation at all.


Infrequent sex is not neccesarily a ';clue'; either in that there are a whole laundry list of potential reasons for that issue. It could be an affair, could just be tired, stressed, getting older, overworked,etc..


I set the odds of cheating at 50/50... you need more information. Good luckMy husband has been clearing his phone?
It could be suspicious behavior or it could be completely innocent. Has he ever had a history of cheating? Has his behavior changed recently? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then I would be nervous. However, if he's never cheated and/or his behavior is the same as its always been, maybe he's just clearing his phone of ';junk'; info. My husband and I clear our histories often but neither one of us are suspicious of the others' motive. Him clearing info from his phone could be just like emptying the garbage can...he is just getting rid of stuff he doesn't need/want/use. Ultimately, though, you are the one who knows him and know if it worth being nervous about. Good luck! =)
I have erased everything on my phone before because it was running slow and I had sooo many emails and text messages on it I thought it would help. If you don't have any other reasons leading to him being unfaithful then let it go. If you have been noticing other things and that is why this caught your attention then you have to talk to him. Check the cell phone bill and see if there are numbers or text messages on it that look suspicious.
you could be thinking way to much into this. he could have just cleared everything off because of the amount of memory on the phone. My cell phone is like that.





on the other hand, if it's got you that worried, then go get the phone bill. they show every call that was made from the phone and every call that came into the phone. along with the phone number date and time, and how many minutes the phone call lasted.
I wouldn't jump to any conclusions. He could of cleared it for a number of reasons. I sometimes clear my history because I don't like seeing a lot of info in my logs and sometimes I do it by mistake without thinking. If he has been acting different lately or there have been other things that might make you suspect something could be going on with him then I would check his phone again in a few days and see. Did you ask him why he cleared it? Unless he's done other things that have made you suspicious of him I would let it go. Other wise just ask him and then see if he does it again and then see where you go from there.
Your phone only has so much memory before you cannot recieve any more messages. It needs to be cleared out eventually. I clear mine out every once and a while and I have never cheated. Unless there is something else going on and unless he has made you suspicious in another way than this is probably innocent.
Of course this can go either way. With new technology these call logs can be very long with too much history. I delete mine to stay current on who is calling for the last day or two. My cell keeps 2weeks logs and that's too much for me and I'm NOT cheating. However, if you have ';other'; reasons to doubt his faithfulness combined with this then he just maybe clearing it to keep you from seeing who he has called and who has called him. You should ask him about this and see if he is consistent with this pattern.
I would be suspicious. Make sure that something didnt happen to his phone to mess it up but otherwise thats a big red flag when all of those things are deleted. My ex did the same thing when he was talking to someone who I thought was my friend and then I heard his voicemail and she said call when the ***** isnt there. So be careful!
If his Phone Is anything Like Mine Its Full after a Few calls or Texts and I haveto Clear it.


If your That Nosey about it Go online and Look up the account and it Will tell you Everything that is Done on His Phone Text Calls in and out and all the Numbers.
there could be two explanations:


1. he knows you nosey and insecure and doesnt want to hear you whining, crying, bitching or even stalking people in his phone.


2. its over he has someone else and he wants to keep it seperate until he gets rid of your not putting out stalking az.





harsh??? yup its realiy boo!
my husband and I both delete everything from our phones probably 2-3 times a week


it clears up memory space for ring-tones, phone games, text messaging, pictures, etc..





if you're not sure about it then why don't you just ask him?
Really, I wouldn't care. I clear my own phone pretty frequently because I don't have a lot of memory, and I stop getting text messages when it gets too full. I've been married 8 years, and I don't look at my husbands mail, email or phone.
I wouldn't think anything of it. I clear my phone about once a month of all dialed, received calls, texts and pictures as it frees the memory.
It could be that he has simply ';spring-cleaned'; his phone for the start of the New Year. Hell, who am I kidding. This is suspicious behaviour. My ex did exactly the same with his phone. Outcome= he was cheating.
Well, not to ruin your relationship or anything, but, he cold be flirting with other girl's or doing something bad behind your back and clearing his phone so you don't find out.
Trust is everything in a marriage this is all I can say, if you don't have that your relationship will never heal.
maybe he just reboot his phone....


but i would be suspicious as well. work hard on your counseling but only if thats what you both want
You are already suspicious or you wouldn't have been looking around in there like that.
Maybe he just wants to make sure his phone works efficiently.
Time to call that cell phone company and get a detailed bill.
how do you know that he hasn't always been doing this? unless you are a nosey person and have checked his phone before.
sometimes when my memory is full ill Clean my texts...but I never clear my call history..if both are cleared I would be suspicious.
well if it is only his dialed #s then i would be suspicious
I clear my phone on a regular basis just because. Not because I'm hiding anything. Maybe he isn't either.
Someone who has nothing to hide ,,,, hides nothing. Why do you think its cleared????? I know why it is...
i would clear mine too...it doesnt mean anything.
I clear all my lists because it's a mess. and unorganized.
My mom is the type to clear numbers from her phone.


My dad always gets pissed and assumes that she's been talking to another man, which is so stupid. Don't make assumptions. If he acts weird simply ask him whats going on. You need to trust him until he gives you a reason not to.


One way to tell if he is having an affair or something is when he leaves or you ask him he can't tell you and look you straight in the eye.


I mean my mom isn't the most trustworthy person, and that is how my dad figured out she was having an affair.


But don't get so worried over it. It just always causes pain.


I'm almost 15 and I've seen my parents fight a lot over the erased phone calls, and since my mom knows my dad has problem with it I don't get why she continuasly does it. so maybe you should just talk to him straight up if it gets too bad.


Maybe he finds no reason to keep the calls...

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